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Break the Motherhood
Self-Abandonment Cycle
The Mama Reset is a 4-week intimate group experience for mothers who are tired of overgiving, overholding, and running on empty — and ready to reclaim more space, energy, and self-trust.
BEGINS MAY 3RD
You love your children. And still, somewhere along the way, you may have learned that loving them meant leaving yourself behind.
Your needs got quieter.
Your body got ignored.
Your desires got pushed down.
Your limits got overridden.
Your pleasure got neglected.
And slowly, self-abandonment started to feel normal.
So normal, maybe, that you barely notice how often you:
keep going when you need rest
say yes when your whole body means no
put everyone else first without question
swallow resentment
perform patience
override your truth
tell yourself this is just what motherhood is
But it isn’t.
And the deepest cost of this pattern is not just what it does to you.
It shapes the emotional climate of your whole home.
Because when you are constantly depleted, braced, disconnected, and overriding yourself, your family feels that too.
Not because you are failing.
But because self-abandonment has consequences.
The Mama Reset is for the mother who is ready to see that clearly — and choose differently.
Not by loving her family less.
But by finally refusing to keep sacrificing herself inside that love.
At a glance
4-week intimate group experience
4 live zoom calls
Telegram support throughout the 4 weeks including weekly hot-seat coaching for 3 mamas
A space for mothers ready to reconnect to truth, energy, pleasure, and self-trust
Optional upgrade with a private 90-minute integration session
“Chloe creates a safe, non-judgmental space to share and learn. I left feeling like I had permission to feel my anger instead of spending so much energy suppressing it. I now recognise anger as a sign of unmet needs, and that it needs to move through and out of the body in a safe, responsible way.”
You know you are giving from emptiness more often than fullness.
You are tired of living in low-grade resentment, guilt, irritability, or emotional flatness.
You can feel that what is draining you most is not just the practical load of motherhood — but the way you keep abandoning yourself within it.
You want more space, more honesty, more pleasure, more energy, more tenderness, more truth, more you.
You are ready to stop treating your needs as negotiable and everyone else’s as sacred.
You want to feel alive in your life again — not just functional inside it.
This is for you if…
The cycle so many mamas are caught in
If you have tried to feel better by getting more organised, being more patient, squeezing in self-care, or just trying harder to cope — and it still hasn’t truly changed anything — there is a reason.
Many mothers are not just struggling with overwhelm.
They are living inside what I call the Motherhood Self-Abandonment Cycle.
This is the learned pattern of:
overriding your body
minimising your needs
ignoring your limits
suppressing your truth
and treating self-erasure as love
Over time, this cycle creates more than exhaustion. It creates resentment, guilt, emotional flatness, disconnection, and a home environment shaped by depletion rather than spaciousness.
And because this pattern lives not only in your thoughts, but in your nervous system, emotional conditioning, and daily relational habits, it does not shift through surface-level self-care alone.
The Mama Reset is designed to help you interrupt that cycle at the root — by bringing awareness to the pattern, meeting the emotional charge that keeps it in place, and rebuilding your capacity for choice, self-trust, honesty, and aliveness.
That is why this work goes deeper than coping.
It helps you stop disappearing inside motherhood and begin relating to yourself differently from the inside out.
The truth at the heart
of this work
Most mothers have been taught that being good means being selfless.
That depletion is normal.
That exhaustion is noble.
That martyrdom is love.
This is how the Motherhood Self-Abandonment Cycle is formed.
And over time, it teaches women to override themselves so consistently that self-erasure starts to feel normal.
But that pattern is costing women their aliveness.
And it is not serving their families either.
Because one of the biggest things undermining the wellbeing of many homes is not a mother’s imperfection.
It is the normalisation of her self-abandonment.
When you leave yourself out of the picture, everyone lives inside the consequences of that.
The tension.
The resentment.
The emotional thinness.
The loss of joy.
The lack of spaciousness.
This work is about ending that pattern.
It is about learning to see where you have been participating in your own disappearance — without shame — and building the courage, honesty, and capacity to choose another way.
What The Mama Reset is
The Mama Reset is a 4-week intimate group experience for mothers who are ready to stop coping with self-abandonment and start transforming it.
This is not a program about becoming a better performer of motherhood.
It is not about squeezing in more self-care while leaving the deeper pattern untouched.
It is about a deeper shift:
from martyrdom to self-trust
from depletion to choice
from guilt to honesty
from self-erasure to presence
from survival mode to aliveness
Inside this space, we will look honestly at the patterns, beliefs, emotional habits, and conditioned roles that keep you trapped in over-giving, exhaustion, resentment, and disconnection from yourself.
And we will begin creating something different within your experience of motherhood:
more space
more truth
more pleasure
more agency
more breath
more joy
more you
What changes when you stop abandoning yourself
Inside The Mama Reset, you’ll begin to:
See where you’ve been overriding your own needs, truth, limits, and desires in the name of love.
Recognise that depletion, martyrdom, and self-erasure are not inevitable parts of motherhood.
Understand how your self-abandonment shapes the emotional wellbeing of your whole family.
Find the courage to make different choices around space, support, honesty, rest, pleasure, and your energy.
Treat your needs and desires as equally real and equally worthy within your family life.
Feel more spacious in your body, with clearer access to your authentic yeses and nos.
Face the guilt and shame that can arise when you stop performing “good motherhood” through exhaustion.
Release the belief that being drained is what makes you loving, generous, or worthy.
Prioritise what brings you pleasure, vitality, nourishment, and aliveness.
Experience more delight, tenderness, and presence with your children as you reconnect to the parts of yourself you thought were gone.
Begin to sense that your children are not only asking things of you — they are also inviting you back into wonder, vitality, honesty, and life.
Imagine this
Imagine being the mother at the playground who is not secretly collapsing inside.
The one who has energy.
The one who can breathe.
The one who knows what she feels.
The one who can feel a full-bodied yes and a clear no.
The one who no longer wears depletion as proof of love.
Imagine no longer organizing your life around guilt.
Imagine not needing to disappear in order to be good.
Imagine placing your needs and desires on equal footing with those of your partner and children — not because you love them less, but because you finally understand that your aliveness belongs in this family too.
Imagine feeling spacious enough inside yourself to actually delight in your children again.
To look at them and glimpse something you had lost:
their vitality
their instincts
their play
their honesty
their joy
And to realise they are not only yours to care for.
They are also showing you the way back to the self you left behind.
That is the deeper invitation here.
The 4-part reset
1. See the cycle | 2. Reclaim choice | 3. Unhook from guilt and martyr conditioning | 4. Rebuild from self-trust, pleasure, and choice
Week 1: Seeing the pattern
We begin by telling the truth.
Where are you abandoning yourself?
Where are you overriding your body, your needs, your limits, your desires?
Where has this become so normal you barely see it anymore?
This week is about awareness, honesty, and the courage to see clearly.
Week 2: Reclaiming choice
Once you can see the pattern, you can begin interrupting it.
We explore where more choice, space, and support are already available to you than you may have realized — and what it takes to actually claim them.
This is where agency starts returning.
Week 3: Meeting guilt, shame, and the martyr myth
This week is about the emotional cost of choosing yourself.
We work with the guilt, shame, fear, and discomfort that can arise when you stop performing motherhood through overgiving and depletion.
This is where we begin breaking loyalty to the martyr mama identity.
Week 4: Pleasure, energy, and
self-return
We turn toward what restores you.
What gives you energy?
What creates spaciousness?
What makes you feel alive?
What would it look like to build a life where your pleasure and wellbeing matter too?
This week is about integration, self-trust, and beginning to live from a new centre.
This space is for mothers
who are ready to…
stop confusing self-abandonment with love
stop performing goodness through exhaustion
stop leaving themselves out of their own lives
create more space for rest, truth, support, and pleasure
reclaim their needs, desires, and inner authority
become more honest, alive, energised, and present inside motherhood
change the emotional climate of their home by changing the way they relate to themselves
This is not for you if…
you are looking for a quick fix that does not require honesty or self-confrontation
you want soothing without transformation
you are not willing to examine the ways you may be participating in your own depletion
you want change without making different choices
you are looking for someone to rescue you, rather than support you in reclaiming your own agency
The Mama Reset is a compassionate space, but it is not a passive one.
This work asks for courage.
It asks for self-responsibility.
It asks for a willingness to tell the truth about the patterns you are ready to stop living inside.
You do not need to have it all figured out.
But you do need to be willing.
A note from me
I created The Mama Reset because this is not just work I teach — it is a path I have walked myself.
I know what it is to live in burnout from mothering.
To feel depleted, stretched thin, and disconnected from your own energy, pleasure, and joy.
And I know what it is to come back from that.
My approach is shaped by both research and lived experience — in my own life and in the lives of my clients.
I have gone from burnout to having more energy, capacity, and joy than ever before in my life, while still being a solo parent to a high-needs child.
That matters to me because this work is not about becoming less devoted to motherhood.
It is about no longer disappearing inside it.
And I believe deeply that this work needs to happen not only behind the closed door of the therapist’s clinic, but in community.
Because for so many mothers, this is not a personal failing.
It is a cultural one.
We have inherited a model of motherhood that normalises self-abandonment and calls it love.
That rewards depletion.
That romanticises martyrdom.
That teaches women to treat their own needs as optional.
So if you have been feeling exhausted, resentful, numb, lost, or far from yourself, I do not believe that means something is wrong with you.
I believe it means you have been shaped by a culture that asks mothers to give everything and call it enough.
The Mama Reset is a space to see that clearly, reclaim your agency, and begin building a different way — one rooted in truth, responsibility, pleasure, energy, self-trust, and aliveness. Let’s do it together.
What’s included
The Mama Reset — Group Experience
$777 NZD
Includes:
4 live group calls
intimate group container
Telegram support throughout the 4 weeks
The Mama Reset — Deepen
$999 NZD
Includes:
everything in the Group Experience
one 90-minute private 1:1 integration session with me
Bonuses for joining early
The first 3 women to enrol will receive a private 45-minute pre-program coaching call with me. This is a chance to get supported around what feels most present for you before we begin, and to enter the space with clarity, intention, and momentum. (1 space left!)
Join by April 29 and receive The Mama Reset Integration Pack - a bonus collection of private audio transmissions, reflection prompts, and reset practices to help you begin interrupting self-abandoning patterns right away.
FAQ
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The program kicks off on May 2nd and completes on the 30th. The live calls will be on May 4th, 10th, 17th and 25th NZ time.
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The calls will be held live on Zoom. Attending live is highly recommended, but recordings will also be available to participants.
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Telegram is the secure messaging app we will be using to connect as a group, for transmissions between calls, giving and receiving support and weekly hot seat coaching.
You can find more info or download it at https://telegram.org/ -
This program is designed around the experience of mothers. However if you a not a mother and this still speaks to your heart, or you want to prepare yourself ahead of time for a different path of motherhood, you are most welcome to join us.
“When I first met Chloe, I was overwhelmed by family life and standing on the edge of burnout. I was trying to start a new business, but I kept hitting a wall. I struggled to put myself out there and didn’t know how to create firm boundaries to protect my time and energy.
What started as a discovery session turned into an 8-week journey that truly changed my life. Each week brought new awareness and deeper healing. Through Chloe’s trauma-informed work, Havening techniques, and energetic tools, I was able to release old wounds and patterns that had kept me stuck in cycles for years.
In just two months, my life transformed. I felt more at ease in my own skin, no longer willing to make myself small. I set healthy boundaries with my family, found the courage to share my work with the world, and reconnected with a part of myself that felt whole and free.
It wasn’t always easy — some sessions left me raw and vulnerable, while others filled me with joy and empowerment — but every moment was worth it. Chloe holds space with such tenderness, empathy, and grace. She offers a deeply nurturing space where real transformation can unfold.”
You do not need to keep disappearing in order to love well.
You do not need to earn rest through depletion.
You do not need to prove your devotion through self-erasure.
You do not need to keep calling survival “just motherhood.”
There is another way.
A truer way.
A more spacious way.
A more alive way.
If you are ready to stop abandoning yourself and begin returning to the woman inside the mother,
I would love to welcome you into this space.