Mamas, I’m here to encourage you to be less calm

Controversial, but being too calm might actually be harming your health and here’s why - it can actually be a sign of going into a freeze response.

When things happen in life, even small stressors and frustrations in daily life, if we shut down our expression of our feelings then they stay trapped in our bodies.

Over time this can manifest as chronic tension, depression, anxiety, adrenal fatigue and even burn-out or auto-immune conditions.

A healthy nervous system is one that pulsates fluidly between activation and relaxation, expression and calmness.

The tricky thing is, our culture values calmness so highly - sees it as a virtue that is often confused with wellbeing. Emotional expression is frequently stifled and even feared. We develop a mask of serenity, but under the surface we experience inner conflict and sometimes a deep sense of aloneness.

I frequently see this in the mamas I work with - they have guilt and shame about emotions showing up in their parenting life (especially anger, though also grief). They are scared that their emotions will harm their kids somehow and so they try to hold them all in. And they exhaust themselves in the process, as well as struggle with their children’s emotional vitality (big feelings).

As a trauma therapist, I love to work with mamas to learn to reconnect to their feelings and thus reclaim their energy, aliveness, healthy boundaries and enthusiasm for life

I know from personal experience how powerful this work can be. There are ways of connecting with and expressing your emotions that won’t harm your kids, but instead serve as an amazing role model

If this speaks to you then send me a message - I would love to hear from you